Katy Perry and Russell Brand are calling it quits after fourteen glorious months of marriage. When a celebrity relationship goes sour, generally, no one is surprised. Like we knew better, and they should have too.
Yet, who has not pursued and failed within a wholly condemnable relationship? The key, if you cannot anticipate and avoid mistakes, try to at least learn from them. Katy and Russell give us ample material to ponder.
Katy Perry and Russell Brand met at the 2009 MTV Video Music Awards, which Brand hosted and where Perry performed. This stands as further proof that you should not date at work.
Does everyone remember the rather public spat when Russell sent out a text photo of Kerry looking her first-thing-in-the-morning best? This is a lesson in understanding your loved one. Perry said she felt betrayed by Brand’s action. Russell Brand is a professional comedian, and his particular brand of comedy is shocking. He is openly unhinged, and as it is his most outstanding trait, it must be part of what attracted Perry to him. If you voluntarily share a bed with such a man, you have no right to be surprised when he plays a disturbing practical joke on you.
From Hollywood to New Hampshire, any relationship can become stale. Try to remember that the person you meet at the night club, or concert, or video music awards show will be far different from the person sitting next to you on the couch in six months, should you decide to pursue matters. You will be different too.
The trick is to not commit yourself to someone at a nightclub unless you have something in common. Good looks are not relationship sustaining. If they were, Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt would have been physically incapable of separating.
Find something in one another to care about that is not anatomical. Genuine interest in a common pursuit goes a long way on a cold night when you are alone in a room together.