Before people crawl all over me for slapping a label on an entire gender, I’d like to quickly retort by saying that even in this day and age, as more women begin picking up controllers and enjoying video games as much as guys traditionally have, men are still subject to bias on the dating scene. Mention that you like video games on a first date and depending on the girl, you could be DOA on a second date, or even the rest of the evening. For the slice of the female population that sees past this and not only discovers such qualities in a man charming, but guarantee a second date, there is no doubt the mentality that these girls are keepers. While video games may not be the sole factor in any relationship, they do unfortunately seem to have enough weight to keep guys on the sidelines. Having dated both gaming-oriented women and those who couldn’t care less about them, there is no doubt that these 10 reasons are enough to warrant a relationship with any of these controller-clutching, handheld-playing goddesses.
10. She Likes Games
Seems obvious, doesn’t it? There are girls out there who will say they once played a game or even that they love them only to reveal their true, insidious plans at a later date. Much like the Emperor at the Battle of Endor, they’ve just been biding their time, baiting you into a trap. These girls don’t love games at all and are hoping they can force you to grow out of this “phase” or nag you enough to give up the hobby and act like they believe you should. After all, in the mind of some women, games are extensions of toys and no men should be playing with those.
Thankfully, you found a woman who not only likes games, but loves them. She’ll understand when you stay up an hour, or three, later to finish a level in a game or even a raid. Not because she sees past what many would call a flaw, but because she’s genuinely interested in letting you do what you enjoy since she understands for no other reason than because she enjoys it too. There’ll even be some nights where she’ll stay awake, not only to watch you play, but to enjoy a game with you. It’s cool though, because she’s got next turn after you die.
9. Inside Jokes
Make a joke about the Mushroom Kingdom, Penny Arcade or Flying Spaghetti Monster forbid, the cake being a lie and not only will she not roll her eyes at you, she’ll probably laugh at it before making her own obscure reference in reply. She does this not because you’ve had to fill in her rudimentary education about video games, but because she’s played or discovered many of these nonchalant little nuances on her own. It seems obscure, even terrifying at first that this slightly geek-laden beauty is with you. But she is and giggling when you make that lame joke in bed about how it’s “on like Donkey Kong”, just don’t go messing it up and asking her if she’ll play with your Battletoad. That’s just awkward for all of us.
Communication is the hallmark of any good relationship since you can’t read each other’s minds, even if it feels like she’s in your mind sometimes like Professor X. But talking, laughing and joking together about not only current events but little things going on in the video game world can help draw a couple together. She knows about Steam getting hacked and reminds you to change your password, She understands why you think EA and Activision are blood sucking demonic entities bent on world domination and she knows what makes Ico and Shadow of the Colossus such classic titles. Even if you two can be in the same room on different consoles, PCs, handhelds, etc that doesn’t mean that when you two do talk, it should have to only be about the weather and the news of the world. It’s good to have someone close who you can bitch about video games with and she’s one such person.
7. Date Nights
No, it doesn’t have to be a trip out to Gameworks or any other arcade, but when dating a girl who likes video games it can be. She won’t just stand there and awkwardly cheer you on while you fight your way through House of the Dead or racing through Cruisin’ USA. She’ll actually be playing too and, odds are, she’ll probably be kicking your ass in some of the games. Not because you think it’ll let you get your hands on her goodies later, but because she is actually skilled enough to keep solid pace with you in a game. While score and competition really have no place in a date, and it’s nice to be able to slip away into a cabinet game with a curtain, it’s nice that a date where you can show off your Crane Game prowess won’t be met by an awkward stare and a belatedly firm, “No”.
6. Nights In
Equally fun as a night out, a heaping order of Chinese food or Pizza will be more than enough sustenance for a gaming night in. Whether it’s working on World of Warcraft characters together, playing any slews of games co-op or having a nostalgic night of anything from Perfect Dark to Mario Party. You can either invite friends in or really connect over some Castle Crashers. You try to protect her because “she’s a girl”, but that crap quickly falls away as she isn’t only capable of handling herself, but saved your ass more than once during that boss battle. Doesn’t matter, she knows what she’s doing, so you best meet her as an equal or bust out the Nintendo DS.
5. Mutual Understanding
The mutual understanding I’m referring to is that video games are a genuine factor in a relationship that makes them that way. They don’t have to be, but in the one’s that are, they really are. Buying a copy of game you’ve both been waiting for? You better be prepared to buy two. She not only helps out with this, but makes it a point to mention that she doesn’t expect you to buy every pair of popular games that comes out. She realizes you aren’t made of money and loves you all the more for bringing home two copies of whatever game you’ve both been waiting for. Partially, this is because she knows you don’t have to that, but mostly because she loves that you do.
4. Midnight Launches
It sucks having to go to a midnight launch for a game that you’ve been waiting for alone. Your friends are too busy, reserved it somewhere else or are simply asleep while you endure the cold, heat, rain or snow in an effort to get your hands on the game a precious few hours before the rest of the world starts playing. Without a doubt, it’s a difficult choice, but you do it anyway because you love those games. All along the way though, she’s standing there next to you and she’s just as excited as you are. She could’ve stayed home asleep or told you it was a stupid idea to head out to some video game store in the middle of the night. Instead, she bundled up, stopped with you to nab some snacks and will be right next to you when you grab the game, just to go home and play it with you. Oh, and did I mention she took the next day off from work so you two could spend the day getting through the game together? Yeah, she’s pretty awesome.
3. Clothing Choices
That stripped N7 hoodie professing your love for Mass Effect, that tacky shirt about how you “scored with the princess” or that Space Invaders necktie dangling silently from your shirt. A few women might call these deal breakers and try to rearrange or even disappear some of the favorite clothes right out of your closet in an attempt to make you more into her ideal man, but not this girl. She bought you the hoodie for Christmas and the necktie was an early birthday gift. The tacky shirt was from your mom, but she only bought it after asking your girlfriend and getting the wrong thing, but you still love her for it anyway. She doesn’t care what you wear as long as you’re comfortable because that’s what most important to her. You might look a bit immature sometime, but you’re relaxed, you’re smiling and that’s what she cares about most at the end of the day.
2. Your Collection
You have more video games than you have books, movies, and music combined. You have shelves lined with cases and special edition extras that would give any GameStop employee a fit of terror. But the first thing she notices is how cool your Frostmourne replica looks nestled against your replica Lancer rifles, mounted on the wall. She glances through the entirety of your collection commenting how cool it is that you have a copy of Earthbound or asking why you have so many Nintendo cartridges still when you could just as easily emulate them. Her eyes dance over all the nostalgic memorabilia and she just eats it up, letting out a squee when she see your Nintendo Club Mario hat and oversized Yoshi plush doll as she dons the hat and pretends to ride the plushy around your place. As a grin spreads across your face, you realize your princess isn’t in another castle.
1. The Wedding
You’ve courted through many a level and overcome several quests on the long road to the end game, but here you are. You pop the question and tell her that you don’t want to explore another castle and the princess you want is right here – your quest is over. She says yes and you begin planning. She jumps right in deciding if she wants a Mario or Zelda theme. Quickly asking, she wonders if you know anyone with a set of Halo armor who can officiate the ceremony. When she walks down the aisle, she listens to multiple samplings from RPGs to see what would sound best as she approaches the altar. And the cake, she’s already picked out the Mario and Peach toppers for you two. It actually takes a bit of convincing to have her wear white instead of Princess Peach Pink. But it’s her day and you back off. Congratulations, you just married a gamer girl. Achievement unlocked.
What is it you look for in a woman? Ladies, what gaming tendencies do you want in your men?