1. Online Infidelity is a Serious Threat to Your Marriage or Relationship
Online infidelity – also referred to as online, cyber, or internet affairs, or cyber cheating – have become an increasing menace to marriages and relationships today. All these terms apply to the same thing – a romantic affair involving intimate relationship between two people, one of whom is married or in a committed relationship, which is conducted primarily in cyberspace or over the internet.
Online affairs are responsible for the break-up of countless numbers of committed relationships, and figure prominently in a growing number of divorce cases, as well. The Internet and modern technology have put more and more relationships at risk. See Cheating 2.0 – Part 1 – How Modern Technology Spawned the New Infidelity.
2. Most People Underestimate Online Infidelity
Since in the early stages of an online affair, there is no sex involved, people tend to underestimate the danger of online or internet infidelity. In fact, one study found that only 46% of men consider online affairs or cyber affairs to be actual infidelity. Yet online infidelity is responsible for 1/3 of all divorce litigation. So don’t treat it lightly if your spouse or significant other is having an online affair. It could signal the beginning of the end for your marriage or relationship. See 17 Subtle Signs That Your Marriage or Relationship is About to End and 40 Fatal Signs That You’re about to Be Dumped.
3. Online Infidelity Can Be Worse Than Sexual Infidelity
Many people consider an internet affair to be harmless since it takes place in cyberspace. But online infidelity can actually be more damaging to a relationship than sexual infidelity, because the emotional bonds that are formed can slowly undermine the cyber cheater’s marriage or primary relationship. See 5 Things about Emotional Infidelity and How Emotional Infidelity Can Progress to Sexual Infidelity
The time spent on an online affair takes away from the time the online heater would normally spend with his or her mate. As increasing amounts of time are spent with the cheater’s online lover, his or her real world partner is left out in the cold.
4. Online Affairs Often Become Real World Affairs
Online affairs are destructive enough to a marriage or relationship, even if they never leave cyberspace. But the reality is that a significant amount of online infidelity eventually becomes physical infidelity. Take a look at the statistics below.
- 50% of people who engage in internet chats have made phone contact with someone they chatted with
- 30% of the cyber-affairs in one study escalated from e-mail to phone calls, and then to personal contact.
- 31% of what started out as innocent online conversations, eventually led to real-time sex
5. 3 Categories of Bahavior Which Indicate an Online Affair
If your spouse or significant other is having an online affair, he or she will display 3 categories of behavior.
- secretive or suspicious behavior
- nervous behavior
- defensive behavior
Each of the above categories of behavior is characterized by its own set of telltale signs. For more details, or for specific examples of these signs of online infidelity, see the article entitled Is Your Partner Cheating Online? – Here’s how You Can Tell.
A Surefire Strategy to Sniff Out Online Infidelity
Most people involved in online affairs will deny that any wrongdoing is taking place. They will adamantly insist to a suspicious mate that the person they’re constantly corresponding with is just “an online friend.” See How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair and 9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair.
So here’s a foolproof way to tell if your spouse or significant other is being truthful, or whether he or she is really cheating online.
Ask your spouse or significant other if you can sit beside him or her and observe the exchange of correspondence back and forth between them and their “online friend.”
How does he or she react?
If he or she makes excuses, gives trumped up reasons why you can’t do this or vehemently objects, then you have your answer as to what’s really going on.
More Help in Detecting Online or Other Types of Infidelity
Chapter 23, in Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, entitled Computer Use, lists 30 computer-related telltale signs that indicate online infidelity. This book also lists numerous other signs of infidelity, both obvious and subtle, which indicate that your spouse or significant other may be involved in infidelity of some kind (online infidelity, emotional infidelity, sexual infidelity, workplace infidelity, or financial infidelity). For more information about this book, click here, or see the article entitled The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2011.
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Other Articles in the5 Things Infidelity Series
5 Things about Signs of Infidelity
5 Things about Emotional Infidelity
5 Things about Rebuilding Your Relationship in the Aftermath of His Affair
5 Things to Avoid Doing If your Mate is Having an Affair
5 Things to Know about Taking a Cheater Back
5 Things about Why So Many Cheaters Don’t Get Caught
More Articles with Practical Infidelity Advice
For other articles on dealing with infidelity of all types, see the list below, or visitwww.NationalInfidelity.com, whereyou will find practical, immediately-usable advice from Ruth Houston, an internationally-recognized infidelity expert who has been researching infidelity for over 18 years, and who is frequently called on the media to comment on popular infidelity issues in the news.
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Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com, the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For practical,immediately-usable advice from an infidelity expert who has been researching infidelity for over 18 years, visit www.NationalInfidelity.com, or see the list of articles below.
Is Your Partner Cheating Online? – Here’s how You Can Tell
The Truth about Cyber Affairs and Online Infidelity
40 Fatal Signs That You’re about to Be Dumped
How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair
9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair
17 Subtle Signs That Your Marriage or Relationship is About to End
Cheating 2.0 – Part 1 – Modern Technology Gives Birth to the New Infidelity
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (soft cover book)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)
The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2011
Online Resources to Help You Catch or Monitor a Cheating Mate
FREE Infidelity Tip Sheets for Men and Women with Cheating Mates