1. A work spouse or office spouse is a workmate of the opposite sex with whom one shares a platonic relationship.
A work spouse relationship is a relationship between two co-workers which is characterized by strong emotional bonds similar to those in a marriage. The relationship between a work husband (office husband) and a work wife (office wife) usually has all the elements of a marriage except for the sex.
2. Work spouse relationships are a growing trend.
Statistics indicate that work spouse relationships have increased over the past few years.
- An online survey of over 6,000 full-time workers conducted on behalf of CareerBuilder.com found that 1 in 10 workers (11 percent) felt that they had a work spouse.
- A survey conducted among a variety of industries by Vault.com found that 32% of the respondents reported having a work husband or work wife.
- In a survey on socializing in the workplace conducted by Randstad USA, 53% of women and 42% of men said they had a work or office spouse.
3. Work spouse relationships are not as harmless as many people seem to think.
Many people believe that work spouse relationships are harmless, but my ongoing infidelity research indicates that work spouse relationships aren’t as benign as they may seem.
Every work spouse relationship has the potential to become a workplace affair. . See 10 Innocent Actions that Can Lead to Infidelity and Infidelity Traps – 12 Ways People Unintentionally Get Drawn into Cheating on Their Mates
And if there is a strong sexual attraction between two work spouses, and the opportunity presents itself, the work spouse relationship could easily become a sexual affair. Because of this, certain precautions need to be taken; and checks and balances put into place.
4. Work spouse relationships are very similar to emotional affairs.
Work spouse relationships are closely akin to emotional infidelity. The bonds formed between a work husband and a work wife are virtually identical to the bonds between two people involved in an emotional affair, and emotional infidelity is the precursor to sexual infidelity. See 5 Things about Emotional Infidelity and How Emotional Infidelity Can Progress to Sexual Infidelity.
If one’s work husband or work wife is the type of person either party would seriously consider dating if they were single or unattached, then work spouses need to be especially vigilant to keep their relationship from inadvertently crossing the line.
5. Common workplace situations can cause a work spouse relationship to become a workplace affair.
The catalyst for a work spouse relationship to progress to a workplace affair is usually one of the common workplace scenarios below:
A company-sponsored social event (like a Christmas party) – especially if alcohol is served. See Going to Your Mate’s Office Christmas Party can Discourage Workplace Affairs and The Company Picnic Could be the Starting Point for a Workplace Affair
- Working late nights together on a business project – especially in a private office, or in a conference room behind closed doors.
- Socializing with a work spouse after business hours without the presence of one’s spouse or significant other See 10 Innocent Actions that Can Lead to Infidelity
- Traveling together for business, and holding meetings in a work spouse’s hotel room
Workplace affairs are one of the most difficult types of infidelity to detect. See How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affairand 9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie about His Affair.
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