We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day. ~ Edith Lovejoy Pierce
The time to close an old book and to commence a new one is just around the corner. The year of 2011 have less than 72 hours left to make the best out of it and to make the regular annual good resolutions for the New Year that is to come. In order to make this moment count – and for it not be another meaningless day – it is important to make the right resolutions and to not get caught in the trivial and wrong reasons why to celebrate that a New Year is coming. Some of the most popular New Year’s resolutions are to get organized, to have a work-life balance or to reduce stress, to travel more or to take a trip, to get out of debt or to save money, to get in shape or to lose weight, to spend more time with family, to quit smoking, drink less or kick a habit, to have a better style, to get a new or a better job, to find a spouse or to improve the already existent relationships and to learn something new. However, and no matter which one is or are your resolutions, what is really important is to remember what marriage and family are really about and that, not only they go hand in hand, but that they also need a lot work and effort for them to get stronger and work well every day.
Gainesville is getting ready to close the old book of 2011 and to initiate Chapter I of the new book of 2012 called Opportunity with a lot of activities to celebrate New Year’s Eve with the family and the loved ones. Saturday December 31st is full of activities to enjoy and celebrate with the family and the loved ones a New Year and another chance to get it right. On December 31st 2011 and on January 1st 2012 from 9:30 a.m. to 12:00 p.m. and from 2:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. on both days, the Santa Fe College Center for Innovation and Economic Development will host a two day event New Year Weekend called Samsara and Nirvana: Two Sides of the Same Hand; a rare opportunity to meet and receive instruction from the wonderful Tibetan lama Khenchen Konchog Gyaltshen, an authentic lineage teacher and a world renowned well-respected scholar, for the suggested donation of $135 for both days or $70 for each day. On December 31st Alley Katz will host its New Year’s Eve Bowling Extravaganza from 6:00 p.m. to 2:00 a.m. Sunday January 1st 2012 featuring All-You-Can-Bowl until 2:00 a.m., shoes, champagne toast, give-aways, and more for only $20. At 7:00 p.m. Kickin’ Devil Cafe will host its New Year’s Eve Party with Little Mike & The Tornadoes. And from 7:30 p.m. to 9:30 p.m. the United Church of Gainesville will host the “Dances of Universal Peace” which welcomes men & women of all faiths to participate in a sacred and joyful candlelit atmosphere with live music, singing and dancing to bring the year to closure and welcome the new ringing bells in the spirit of harmony and optimism. From 8:00 p.m. to 12:30 a.m. January 1st 2012, the City of Gainesville Department of Parks, Recreation and Cultural Affairs will host Downtown Countdown, a New Year’s Eve Celebration Concert, featuring Fast Lane, at the Bo Diddley Community Plaza. And from 9:00 p.m. to 2:00 a.m. January 1st 2012, the Art of Billiards-Gainesvilles Ultimate Sports Bar will also be hosting their “All you can Drink & Eat New Year’s Eve Pajama Party” for $40 per person or $75 a couple. Also at 9:00 p.m. Double Down Live will host its New Years Eve w/Heavy Petty (Tom Petty tribute) with free Champagne at midnight for only $6 at the door.
There are no excuses to have an ordinary New Year’s Eve, but many ways to have instead a great time while spending also quality time with your family and loved ones. Hamilton Wright Mabie (1846–1916), an American essayist, editor, critic, and lecturer, stated once that, “New Year’s Eve is like every other night; there is no pause in the march of the universe, no breathless moment of silence among created things that the passage of another twelve months may be noted.” In that same way Hal Borland (1900 – 1978), a well-known American author and journalist, stated once that the “[y]ear’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us.” In other words, in order to have a remarkable new year, and also a better life, it is important to learn how to rise above the little things to be able to ultimately overcome the big ones as well. After all, marriage and family are all about the little things; commitments, communication, admiration, respect, and quality time spent together.
Henry Ward Beecher (1813 – 1887), a prominent Congregationalist clergyman, social reformer, abolitionist, and speaker in the mid to late 19th century, said once that “every man should be born again on the first day of January. Start with a fresh page. Take up one whole more in the buckle if necessary, or let down one, according to circumstances; but on the first of January let every man gird himself once more, with his face to the front, and take no interest in the things that were and are past.” Therefore, let’s born again on January 1st 2012 by not regretting anything and by forgetting all that was bad, while keeping the lessons of it; let’s remember the power that our words might have before even saying them; let’s remember that in order to love someone else it is imperative to learn how to accept and love ourselves because self-esteem is the main recipe for a successful live; here is nothing; let’s remember that every day should be not only a date day but a best friends day and a national marriage day, in other words, a perfect day to tell your significant other how much she or he means to you and how much you appreciate all the things he or she had done for you; and let’s remember that all relationships must be able to go through thick and thin in order to be real and survive all adversities because, as Evelyn Duvall and Reuben Hill, two family developmental theorists, stated once, “the kind of marriage you make depends upon the kind of person you are. If you are a happy, well-adjusted person, the chances are your marriage will be a happy one. If you have made adjustments so far with more satisfaction than distress, you are likely to make your marriage and family adjustments satisfactorily. If you are discontented and bitter about your lot in life, you will have to change before you can expect to live happily ever after.”