I make it a point not to take advice from someone who has not “been there.” Has your life ever taken a complete 360 degree turn around? Has the bottom ever dropped out? Have you ever lost everything? I have, and in fact it has happened to me a few times during my lifetime. I will tell you what I did and how I bounced back coming through that ever narrow tunnel back to life.
What if you lost everything, what would you do, what would you get rid of, what would you hold onto ever so tightly, as you slide quickly down the narrow tunnel, the rabit hole, that you might not even see.
My health was a mess, my mind was shot, I had people I leaned on die and I had family I thought would be there for me forever leave me, and friends well, you lose those to during divorce. I was broke homeless and no back up.
Dark night of the soul, transformation, what the heck speed am I going at? I was tested and my personal strength is the “rock of gibralter.” ” I am made out of the good stuff,”I now remember my Grandmother telling me and she shook her fist in the air. It is hard to remember that when you are at the bottom, but I keep telling myself that over and over. The good stuff.
You will bounce back, you will stand up taller, you will be surrounded by love, even if it is not the ones you previously thought should have loved you. It is always about moving from less into more.
What I know for sure is that I was always the strong one, and learning to ask for help brings tremendous growth. Ouch! What you learn from such times:
- Material goals mean nothing. Moving from my four bedroom home I lived in for years, and getting rid of everything was scary and liberating. Having no money was a pain and frightening. I lerned that all I was clinging to so tightly were not the real things that should have mattered to me.
- Angels are all around us. Just when you are sure you are alone and no one to hear your cries or hold your hand, here comes a complete stranger, clean out of the blue to dry your eyes and hold your hand and to raise you up.
- Miracles really do exist. You find money that you so desperatley need, under your car seat, someone at arest area gave us dog food, acquantances gave us a safe home to live in, and are now my best friends and love me back.
- Mass quantities are no longer necessary, less is more. I learned how wasteful I had been and that I am happier with less.
- I learned gratitude. I learned it and I so appreciate it, there is nothing else like it, except kindness and forgiveness and I learned that too. The simplest thing in my life are inspirational.
- I learned that I can trust me. Me and my own energy are the only thing I had sometimes and I could reflect on what is genuine and what to trust and come up with real answers for me that actually work better that those I leaned to previously who only gave me answers to my questions that made me work best for them, not best for me,
- Share your story. I am very shy at heart and a private person and people along the way encouraged me to write a book, share my story to help others, to inspire them. Inspiring others has inspired me too.
- I learned that patince really is a virtue.
- I learned the importance of now, being in this moment right here right now.