Resolutions. Maybe you’re the type of person who hates them because you never stick with them or maybe you’re like me and love them because they gives you the motivation to start a new goal. Last year, I wrote an article called Goodbye New Year’s Resolutions, Hello Monthly Habits. I suggested that rather than picking a resolution that we need to stick to for a whole year, that we make our resolutions a little less lofty, and instead try to form a new habit each month that will help get us to our final “big” goal.
In the article, I talked about dieting, and how rather than having a resolution to “lose weight” we have a goal each month, such as drinking eight cups of water each day in January, that will allow us to form healthy habits.
Let’s apply the same concept to dating. Rather than having a rather nebulous resolution to “fall in love” or “spend more time with my partner,” how about creating some specific monthly goals around dating? These will be different, of course, depending upon whether or not you’re already in a relationship, but either way let’s make 2012 be a year when we have fun with dating and use dating as a way to build deeper relationships. Here are some ideas of things you can do each month:
January: Start the year with loving yourself. Take a Nia class that will give you poise and confidence.
February: Celebrate love. Send a card each day to someone you love. If you are in a relationship, these can all be to the same person — create your own special cards. If you aren’t in a relationship, enjoy sending cards to a variety of friends and flirt buddies and tell them why you love them.
March: Go on a date a week. Check out Take the challenge: Weekly dates for married or singles for inspiration.
April: Celebrate Spring on Pearl Street in Boulder. Enjoy the magic while the tulips are in bloom and try these 10 ideas for dating on Pearl Street.
May: Just say ‘yes.’ This month make it a habit to say ‘yes’ to invitations and step out of your comfort zone. Start by watching the movie, “Yes Man” with Jim Carey.
June: Get rid of the baggage. This month resist saying anything negative about the ‘ex’ or anyone else in your life who is holding you back. See the positive in people rather than the negative.
July: Celebrate National Ice Cream Month by inviting a date to join you in your quest to sample ice creams from a variety of venues. Try new flavors or try your hand at making your own ice cream. Don’t forget Ben & Jerry’s on Pearl Street!
August: Go on vacation to somewhere you’ve never been before. Explore a new area of the world, or simply drive to Eastern Colorado and explore old mining towns. If you are in a relationship, enjoy your month of exploration with your partner. If you are single, make it a point to meet someone new in every town you explore.
September: Take a hike. Capture the beauty of the changing colors with photographs. Reflect on the special people in your life and why you love them. Have you told them how you feel?
October: Play! Go to haunted houses. Dress up in something crazy and creative for Halloween. Let your inner child out this month.
November: Be grateful. Write in a journal each day and find five unique things that you appreciate. Write about your dates and relationships and recognize the beauty that is within each person in your life.
December: Reflect. Review the year and all the relationships you’ve enjoyed. Put your photos in a slide show. Celebrate your dates and adventures. Evaluate what went well and what could have been better and then plan for another new year.
What dating resolutions do you have? It’s always fun to have a discussion and 2012 is the year I’d like to get more comments, so subscribe and join in!