It seems the term”Don’t Live in The Past” has a tendency to play in many relationships today. We figure that what happen before is destined to happen again. A relationship is never easy to begin with but going in there blinded by the past will already make it difficult to ever find happiness for the future. Sometimes we think a person we need to be with has to be a certain way but then realize that we are trying for them to be like a person we once dated and should realize that it never worked in the first place. Otherwise those other relationships would have never ended. When someone is hurt from the past they tend to carry it with them and be compelled to bring that hurt into the current relationship. Those people who have the fear of being alone are more compelled to accept what is there rather than embrace what they want. Too many people never see that because settling for what life has offered never helps them to capture what life has to offer. The past is basically a story of our lives. It should not only be taken as a lesson learned but also an indication of the story we want to tell for the future. If a relationship did not work out in the past, it’s because one or both parties had their issues and were not willing to work on them. Those issues should not be brought into a new relationship. It’s not fair to either of you because the expectations become blindsided by the aggravations and unhappiness of what was never met before.
Sometimes fear of what was has a tendency to keep people from taking the next step. But if we live in that fear we will never learn to cultivate good things and good people in our lives. Finding the right person means letting the past be the past and learning more about what the future can bring. Many people are so desperate to cling on to the past because they have never known anything else. They are not willing to take that next step into finding something different, something better. It’s that fear that compels them to stay with what’s there and not find change. The fear of change or the unknown frightens many people. The past is a great provider of that because many live by what they know rather than living by what they can learn. Relationships cannot survive if the past has a hold on them. Don’t let yourself be unhappy because of what was, rather be happy of what can be. Don’t let the past control that because you don’t want to get robbed of your future.