Letting go of the old to allow the new into your life is a major principle in Feng Shui. Why then, why do we find it so difficult to forgive when we are hurt by the actions of others? We are taught to “go with the flow,” knowing that whatever is happening in the present is in our best interest even though it may be difficult to see how such a negative force could ever have any positive outcome at that particular time.
Take the perspective that it is far better for you to learn to release the pain others have caused you. “When we know better, we do better,” – great advice given by the legendary Dr. Maya Angelou. Without making excuses for the other person’s actions as a way to forgive them, just assume he or she didn’t know any better. Remember, our perception of any event or action is always different from one another. You are the one that needs to change your thought over the incident to release it and feel better on a mental, physical and spiritual level.
This can be a difficult concept, but look back on your own past and see if you can recognize events in your life where an individual created a feeling of hurt or disappointment. Perhaps over time, it caused you to change your course of direction in life, spurred you to take action or do things you would have never pursued.
According to Chinese principles, we are only born with a certain amount of energy and when that energy is used is when we pass to another place. They firmly believe that the only way to replace and restore this energy is through the ancient art of Tai Chi.
Remember, if you choose to not forgive, it only hurts yourself. You then become more prone to illness, blocked energy flow and depression. It is only in changing your way of thinking, your perception of the situation and realizing that as difficult as it may seem at that moment, to see any good possibly occurring from it, do you help yourself heal and bring closure.