1. Letting Go
I’m sure you are frustrated and angry at first, but at the same time, no amount of anger will undo what has been done. Your best bet is to begin moving on.
Do not dwell on whether the person will come back or not, if they broke up with you at one point, chances are, something is wrong with the fit of your partnership, and you’ll be better appreciated elsewhere, with someone else.
Trust that everything in the Universe happens for a reason, and it benefits everyone involved in the long run, even if the benefits are not yet clear. Trust that this is the best possible thing to happen to you right now, and the reasons will become clear in the future.
2. Release Tension
We all have the need to be understood and heard. Whether we’re on the receiving end or the initiating end of a breakup, we often carry with us the tension and any unexpressed emotions. We can release this extra energy by:
- Talking about it with a friend.
- Voicing our opinions honestly and openly with our ex-partner, which have been bottled up in the past.
- Punching a pillow and crying freely for 10 minutes
- Screaming out aloud and imagining unwanted energy being released with your voice (seriously, I’ve done a meditation that incorporated this, and I instantly felt better).
- Writing in a journal (more on this later).
- Exercise and body movement.
3. Love Yourself
Here are some ideas to cultivate the art of loving yourself:
- Practice doing things on your own to challenge your fear of being alone. For example, if you have a fear of eating alone in a restaurant, go out to a restaurant on your own. Your mission is to find the joy within that experience.
4. Practice forgiveness
Allow the love within you to flow. Try practicing forgiveness and open up your heart.
- “I let myself love her. Even when it felt like my heart was going to break. Adyashanti says something amazing – when people say, ‘My heart feels like it is going to break.’ He says, ‘Let it break. If you let it really break – really, really break, it will transform you.’”
- Let your hurt heart break wide open. Let go of every possible belief or thought that says your ex is anything other than the most incredible, amazing, wonderful person in the Universe. You gotta love them and open your broken heart, wide open.
- 5. Give it Time
It takes time to heal. Be patient. Give it more time. The storm will end, and the sun will peak through the clouds.
6. Journal Your Experience
Spend some quality time in a comfortable chair, not typing on a laptop, writing on paper with a pen. Follow your heart and flow freely, but if you’re stuck, here are some writing exercises you can do:
7. Read Something Inspirational
Here are some recommended books:
- The Power of Now
- You Can Heal Your Life (Illustrative Edition)
- Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life