A relationship is a delicate thing. A few angry words misspoken can damage many years worth of love and kindness built up in a friendship. When things go wrong in a relationship, you can usually assume anger was the culprit.
“I almost lost a long-time friend after an argument”, said Roshelle M. of Tampa. “We said things to each other that made it hard to make up easily”. It took Roshelle a few months before working up the courage to apologize. Even then her relationship with her friend has never been the same.
Many people don’t know how to handle conflict without anger. This can lead to complications in your relationships, which can have a negative impact on your personal and business life.
That’s why you need to start taking a hard look at how you manage conflict in your life. Do you suppress your anger? Do you come to a slow boil and then explode? Are you in a constant state of tension? Or, are you able to deal with it in a way that doesn’t tear you down?
Roshelle knew she had to get control of her temper, or risk losing relationships that were important to her. Her first step was to recognize the things that triggered her anger. Then she found a technique which allowed her to calm down before or when she got angry. For Roshelle that was a breathing meditation which allows her to focus on what’s important.
Recognizing the triggers of your anger will allow you to be proactive instead of reactive in handling your anger. This can help you keep your cool and help you maintain harmony in your friendship. By doing this you’ll be able to save your friendships from breaking up over an argument.