Today we have a variety of people in our lives – those we love that don’t love us back, those that love us; but we don’t love them. We have friends that we love; but family members who are difficult to love. Some, we just like and/or admire; but do not love. And we all have folks we just tolerate. But the girl in this story has four boyfriends.
She treats them all differently; and she loves them all differently; but which one should she choose as a lifetime partner? What does she need to learn about loving herself? This dilemma appeared several times on the Internet and was sent far and wide via e-mail. Her problem is not so unique; many are faced with this same situation. Are you?
The story of the girl with four boyfriends – which one would you choose for her?
She loved the fourth boyfriend the most and adorned him with all sorts of gifts and treated him to the finest of everything. She gave him nothing but her best.
She also loved the third boyfriend very much and was always showing him off to neighbors and friends. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another.
She also loved her second boyfriend. He was her confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, and he would help her get through the difficult times.
The girl’s first boyfriend was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining her possessions and her status in life. However, she did not love the first boyfriend although he loved her deeply; she hardly took notice of him!
At this point, who should she love the most and decide to live her life with?
One day, the girl fell ill and she knew her time was short. She didn’t want to die alone. She thought of her luxurious life and wondered, ‘I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, will I be all alone?’
Thus, she asked the fourth boyfriend, ‘I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?
‘No way!’ replied the fourth boyfriend, and he walked away without another word.
His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart.
The sad girl then asked the third boyfriend, ‘I loved you all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?’ ‘No!’ Replied the third boyfriend. ‘Life is too good! When you die, I’m going to marry someone else!’ Her heart sank and turned cold.
She then asked the second boyfriend, ‘I have always turned to you for help and you’ve always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?’
‘I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!’ replied the second boyfriend. ‘At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave.’
His answer struck her like a bolt of lightning, and the girl was devastated.
Then a voice called out: ‘I’ll go with you. I’ll follow you no matter where you go. ‘The girl looked up, and there was her first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition and neglect.
Now who do you think she should choose?
Greatly grieved, the girl said, ‘I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!’
In truth, we all have four friends in our lives:
Your fourth friend is your body. No matter how much time and effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die.
Your third friend is your possessions, status and wealth. When you die, it will all go to others.
Your second friend is your family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave.
And your first friend is your spirit. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world. However, your spirit is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go.
Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you to the throne of God and continue with you throughout Eternity.
Thought for the day: “What lies behind us and what lies before are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
The New Year is coming and many people make resolutions to lose weight – their body. Many say they will work harder in order to have more things – their possessions. Some will promise to make more new friends and become more social and to keep in touch with family – that is their family and friends.
Many will continue to neglect their Spirit which will live forever and never leave you. Christ said, “I will never leave nor forsake you!” God’s Word says that our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit.
Many years ago, this author was director of a Ladies’ Prayer, Share, Support Group called Life Design; and the emphasis was on Mental, Physical, Spiritual, and Social Wellness! ” Nourish your Spirit; and the others will fall into place.
“Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” Psalm 51:10
Being happy doesn’t mean everything’s perfect. It means you’ve decided to see beyond the imperfections.
Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s TROUBLES; it takes away today’s PEACE.
The love you have for your Spirit should be carved in stone. Your Spirit is who you are – it is what God put into your body when you were conceived – it is what will leave your earthly body in death; but will live forever with God in a new eternal body.
Jim Elliott, martyred missionary said just before his murder by the natives he was sent to minister to that, “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep – to gain what he cannot lose!”
The enemy can kill the body; but cannot kill the Soul’s Spirit.
“The human spirit is a lamp of the LORD that sheds light on one’s inmost being.”