Looking back on 2011, what will you want to change? Improve? Resolve? This is that time of year to look back at the old and prepare for the new. It’s exciting, yet scary, to think of an unknown challenge and all the uncertainties surrounding it.
Here are some practical love-related suggestions you can start implementing today!
Lower expectations but higher standards.
We can’t expect anything from anyone else. High and unrealistic expectations damage relationships. However, it is reasonable to have a standard of what kind of relationship you want to have and how you want to be treated. Meaning, you will not settle for anything less. Start off the new year evaluating your standards, but don’t expect others to live up to them. That will make it easier to find someone who will, or assure you that you already did.
Don’t complain – be an example of what you’d like from your partner.
Hearing someone complain isn’t exactly sexy. Sometimes we tend to focus on what the other person should improve upon, do better, etc. Instead, it is important to look inward. If you want someone to be the best version of him or herself, be the best version of yourself first. That’s a good goal to have this year!
The kindness of a stranger.
We get comfortable with the people we love. We feel we can say and do what we want to them, and end up taking them for granted. The courtesy and kindness we give a stranger should also be given to the ones we love. This is a great goal to strive for during 2012.
Instead of “working on” a relationship, have a relationship. Live life with your partner and make the mundane fun. Celebrate special occasions, go on dates, laugh together! Usually couples are together because they make each other laugh and have common interests. Don’t forget what brought you together this year!
Fear is intended to protect us from harm. This emotion is very important in life. However, fear has no place in love. Yet, many fear their partner will cheat, leave, lie, etc. As if there was some conspiracy going on, we live as detectives and don’t enjoy the relationship. Let go of all those fears this year and take a person at their word, until they give you a genuine reason not to.
For 2012, our resolutions, goals and challenges should be met throughout the year, not given up on because they were unrealistic. It is unrealistic to change every aspect of yourself in a year and an overwhelming task. Start small and as you achieve those goals, if the year isn’t over, add more to your list. But let’s not seek perfection. Instead, see the perfection and beauty in the small things in your own life, like love.
Happy New Year!