Unfortunately, not everyone is going to see you for you. It’s even more unfortunate that being rejected leads to being withdrawn, bitter, and untrusting. Rejection can really break someone’s spirit, but for others, it can open a new way of thinking. No matter how painful it may be, it is a necessary part of life.
Here are ways that you can use to turn your rejection wounds into strengths:
Being rejected teaches people how to understand others. It helps those once in pain to sympathize with another in pain. One of the best ways to heal one’s pain is to go through some. Now, that doesn’t mean go out and look for a way to get hurt. Yes, pain can help you help others, and you should help if you can. No one wants to be hurt. If you’ve felt some agony in your life, you know what it’s like, and you can do something about changing it.
Speaking of understanding people, let’s face it. The world is an angry place at the moment. We face too many things in this world that can really put someone in a bad state of mind. When faced with rejection, people tend to push others away with various acts of malice. But think logically: if you were hurt, would you want to hurt others? It creates a chain of sadness that gets hard to break. And then, that person you hurt can make you feel worse later! The world needs togetherness. It is hard to believe someone would intentionally hurt another person, especially if they know what it feels like to be hurt. ‘Treat others the way you wish to be treated.’
This is a tricky one. You are most likely reading this and thinking, “How can rejection help me respect myself? What kind of…” and then you mumble to yourself a bit. Oh yes, being rejected helps you respect yourself because of the strength it gives you in the future. ‘What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.’ Being put down faces you with obstacles that you must overcome. It helps you see the world a little more clearly. It helps you learn adaptation.
There are people who aren’t strong enough to adapt to pain and endure what life throws at them, and those people live a very miserable life. They believe life ends with a no, but no’s as well as yes’s open new doors for people. The people that turn away from a ‘no door’ become blind to a potential strength that comes later, and they get apathetic, pessimistic, nervous, bitter, and weak. Unfortunately, people need pain as much as they need reward.