G.Y.M PLAN= GET YOUR MAN PLAN
SEX SALES…It is a fundamental principle of marketing and advertising. If you look at the items that are marketed to men, normally somewhere in the ad there will be an overt or subliminal sexual message in the ad, commercial, song, video, or movie. So now that this principle has been placed on the table, let’s address the ramifications of things that preclude men from having sex. These would be the things women find to be unsexy, as in being a normal law abiding man and being educated.
Hold up, breatheeee…retract claws….and continue to read before you pass judgment (Woo-Sahhhh)
Although this is being read by women 18 and older this addresses behavior that began in middle school for most women and has become part of their subconscious selection criteria when choosing a sexual partner, mate, or spouse. Women long for the bad boy, the thug, the guy with swagger, the guy who breaks the rules. Somewhere between emotional maturity, children out of wedlock, college, mentally or physically abusive relationships, being mislead, being used for money, or just pure exhaustion women wake up and change their criteria. However, subconsciously they still search for the best of both worlds. A bad boy’s swagger with an educated man’s mentality, drive, and vision. Sadly there is one constant truth. The men who became that bad boy in middle school, high school and after do not get the same opportunity to try to right their past as the women that love them. Most likely those men end up in jail, undereducated, dead, or not seen as marriage material for a professional woman in her later years. Here are some things to think about:
1. Nearly two-thirds of African-American undergraduates are women.
2. At black colleges, the ratio of women to men is 7 to 1.
3. In the past fifty years, the percentage of African-American women between 25-54 who have never been married has doubled from 20% to 40%
4. Despite popular belief, 92 percent of black married men are married to black spouses out of 4.33 million black marriages in America as of 2006.
5. Asians actually have the highest rate of interracial marriage in America.
6. A recent report from the Pew Center on the States announced the U.S. now has the largest number of prisoners ever- 2.3 million- and half are Black men
7. There are 32 states with more than one in ten young Black men in prison and ten states where one in six young Black men are behind bars
8. In New Mexico, for example, 30 percent of young Black men, aged 20-35, are in prison
9. There is a 50% rate of unemployed/ unemployable Black men in NYC
10. After a study of data from the 2000 Census long form and male respondents in the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, I can tell you that by the time Blacks reach their late twenties, there are 128 Black women for every 100 Black men. By their mid-20s, Black women in every state where the Black population is relatively high (mostly the southeast) outnumber Black men in the general population significantly.
What does this information tell us? It tells us that for black women you are most likely going to have to marry down if you choose a black man. It also tells you that although there are many men in number, in ratio and proportion there is not one for every woman. So the idea of a same race soulmate is ridiculous. A soulmate would mean that we have at minimum an equal amount. We obviously don’t if there are more women than there are men in the dating pool. So now comes the tricky part. Educated men see these trends and so do the uneducated men. So they realize they don’t have to get married, because there is high demand for the low supply of men. Ladies (especially minority women) here is the moment of truth. Sorry if this offends you. These are the five truths you must admit before you can start your G.Y.M plan:
1. White women, Hispanic women, Asian women and other women period are not stealing your men. You are losing them in a bidding war and they are going to the highest bidder. So check you ego, stop blaming other women and just like a big game hunter go out and hunt and get your man. It’s really that simple. If you keep waiting the numbers will get worse, not better. You may find yourself by yourself. As your friends all go off and find their husbands and have children, you will continue to have your cat or dog and comfort yourself with the knowledge that you have EXTREMELY HIGH standards and you would rather be alone than go and do whatever it takes to get a good educated man to be the father of your child. I hope those standards cuddle and help change diapers. Pride is dangerous. Remember Bush made us stay in Iraq based on Pride. Just for the record, if you would rather be alone, why do you have the cat or dog?
2. Those rules your mother told you about getting a man are outdated and will cause you to be your mother’s age without a man. If getting a man is your destination, fix your transportation and start your journey. In your mother’s and grandmother’s day, Hip Hop had not destroyed the ratio of men to women in the 20-35 age bracket. Back then men were looking for wives. Now men are either not looking or are not willing to placate,court and beg as they did in the past, because of supply and demand. Thugs and uneducated men will placate, beg, and do whatever it takes, because they will do anything to get sex from you. They will reproduce more and in the end their offspring will be what represents us as the next generation. Modern evolutionary theory defines fitness in terms of individual reproduction. So if you want the best partner to pass your genes on to, you need to pick the best mate. Therefore, adapt your rules to the market, and do whatever is necessary to keep yourself from being the old woman with the cats.
3. If you’re chasing thugs in the clubs, celebrities or ball players and you think no one knows about it and your reputation will not be harmed, you are sadly mistaken. There are many women with beautiful faces, gorgeous bodies, extreme curves and an education. You are one of many, stop deluding yourself. YOUR CHARACTER IS WHAT SETS YOU APART. Most major cities run in small circles even if it is a geographically large area. So when that educated man hears or sees you playing pawn to that other Man’s King, he will simply look for another person to be his Queen. Checkmate. You lose. Men will not want a whore or a perceived whore to be their wife. A wife is a man’s greatest accomplishment, because she will be the nurturer of his children. He lives on through her. It has been said one man’s trash is another man’s treasure and one man’s loss is another man’s gain. However, an educated man sees himself as the best and brightest. He is willing to welcome another man’s loss, but not another man’s trash.
4. Having his baby will not make him your man or a good father to that child. You must procreate based on trust, respect, compatibility, love, mutual goals, and passion. A child can seem like a trap to some men and will give you a one way ticket to baby mother land. You had a choice to be on birth control and use a condom. You were the last gatekeeper to your body. If it was consensual, your decision or indecision created a situation. Look at the male you’re sleeping with. If he is not a good man, how will he be a good father?
5. The last but the most important rule. Change the definition of what you deem acceptable in a man and address it in schools, to young girls, the media, and anywhere you can. As long as educated women, models, singers, actresses, etc. accept the rapper, thug, gangsta, criminal type element of man, men will play the role. Men react to the desires of women. As I first stated, it’s marketing. Marketing firms use some of the most beautiful video models to sell an image to young men. They know what they are doing, and women must finally wake up and admit that they are being used as bait to destroy their own mating pool. As he chases that fast money to buy rims, chains, cars, shoes, clothes and jewelry to impress a woman, this inability to delay gratification is destroying him from the inside out. He becomes a target for police by his attire, and if he did commit a crime and gets caught he is destroyed and will lose part of youth. The desires of a woman’s youth can lead to her pain in her maturity. What you soweth, you shall reapeth. Had you lusted for nerds on a national level in middle school and in high school, maybe we would have more scientists and less criminals, wannabe thugs and rappers.
NOW THAT WE HAVE ADDRESSED THOSE 5 TRUTHES….LET’S GET TO THE PLAN.
1. KNOW YOUR MAN. Know his likes, dislikes, tendacies, and goals.
2. DESIRE TO PLEASE HIM. Desire to make him happy, even at your own expense. Real men will reciprocate.
3. MELD YOUR DREAMS. If he loves politics and you love politics work together not apart. Build a foundation rooted in friendship and cemented in trust
4. IGNORE THE SMALL STUFF. Would you sell a Benz because it has mud on it? So why lose a great man over a blemish. 20 years of waiting on Mr. Right means losing a quarter of your life that you can’t get back if you are short sighted. The best generals know what battles to fight and when to take the high ground. Give him guy time, ignore the toilet seat, laugh at things that might irritate you, it will pay off when he looks at you as being the woman who loves him despite his faults. That’s the woman he marries, not the the woman who nags and makes him act perfect all the time
5. ***BE HIS EVERYTHING IN THE BEDROOM***What you won’t do, another woman will. Yes, it’s true you can find another man, but is it worth it? You are gonna do it at sometime with some man. Why lose this one over something that you will regret later? You may laugh as you read this, but I guarantee you there is a woman right now in America who wishes she could get her Ex-man back and is walking around with Volleyball Kneepads in her purse, hoping she finds him. Hindsight is always 20/20.
6. RECOGNIZE HIS PROMISE AND FOSTER IT. No two women represent this more than Michelle Obama and Hillary Clinton. BOTH women were ahead of their men in law school and married someone who was behind them. They advised their men and were partners. Although Bill strayed, he damned near destroyed his legacy trying to help her win the nomination for President, and no one can ever doubt the love and gratitude Barack has for Michelle.
7. CREATE THE MEMORIES. All relationships have their bad moments. When those moments arise, you will need to look back on the memories to get you through them. The fewer memories you have, the less likely it is you will survive turmoil
8. BE SECURE AND DEAL WITH YOUR OWN PAST BAGGAGE. Nothing upsets a man more than being accused of something he could do, but he isn’t doing because he loves you. This is a sure fire way of pushing him down temptation alley. He is your current man, not the previous man. Act like it.
9. DON’T GET TOO COMFORTABLE WITHOUT A RING. Once you got him, remember how you got him. How you got him is how you keep him. So if you started off cooking and cleaning, either keep doing it or start off sharing the responsibilities. A lack of effort often denotes a lack of desire, and if you don’t desire to make him happy he will see it and act accordingly.
10. ********DON’T DO ANY OF THIS FOR A JERK OR A SELFISH MAN******* Just because he is educated, good looking and charming, doesn’t mean he has the right to mistreat you. Although you should overlook small things and do whatever it takes to please a good man, you can’t make snowballs in hell and you can’t make a man love you. Infidelity, abuse, disrespect, and dishonesty are not to be tolerated. So if he is a jerk or a selfish man, move on….THE G.Y.M. PLAN IS ONLY FOR GOOD MEN AND EVERY MALE DOESN’T QUALIFY FOR THIS TREATMENT.
Ladies, you have to decide what is important to you. In a perfect world you can get a man and receive public approval of your methods. When you can’t, ask yourself the realest question you can ask. Is the approval of those outside of your bedroom more important than the approval of the man who would share your bedroom? Make your decision and then act on it. Good Luck.