There are people who have been known to go days, even weeks, without ever complaining about a single thing, and then there are those who have been known to complain about a multitude of issues every single day.
There are times when people actually look for things to complain about, to the point of find and seek – somehow believing that the Freedom of Expression is their own “Right to Complain.” Of course to many, that notion may seem extreme, while to some absurd – although most would simply agree that the Freedom of Opinion and Expression Declaration was not written with intent for nonstop prattle, and certainly not without at least some respect, restraint and accountability.
This of course does not include those that complain about the occasional lost reservation, the homeowner who is upset that their washer flooded their entire first floor, the auto accident that backed up 47 miles of the Interstate, and certainly not the occasional frequent flyer whose luggage was lost somewhere in Alaska when they landed in Florida. It doesn’t even include the occasional complaint from the parent who received a call from the babysitter at work in a screaming panic because her child shoved Kix cereal up her nose.
Most complaints are indeed legitimate, with legitimate ways of handling them. In fact, there are city or business websites with contacts, additional information and even instructions on the FTC website for those in further need. So what constitutes too much complaining?
What I’m referring to is when a person complains endlessly – for hours, and hours, and hours – for days, and days and days. And then some. When a person goes on a fish and find for anything and everything to complain about, no rhyme or reason, but just because they can.
These folks must not realize that there is a time and a place for everything, even a complaint.
Ironically, many gather with friends for the occasional complaint fest, albeit constructive, moderate and tasteful – hardly ever an overkill. Key words being moderate and tasteful; (not to mention, friends always have the option of having a drink or two to ease the pain, or to not listen) – so it’s all good.
Venting is always a good thing, and it’s actually a good therapy tool (although venting amongst friends is by far much cheaper). And, this may be the only place excessive complaining is acceptable; otherwise though, it is a no-no.
Basically, no one wants to be misconstrued as negative, unpleasant, having poor etiquette, being ill-mannered, or even remotely lumped in with bah-humbug (since we are entering into the holidays).
The point being, complaining has a time and place, and although some may not want to tell you to your face, it’s simply not proper etiquette to over-complain. Preferably, complaining in moderation is best (like anything, it’s always better). In fact, if it’s really not worth it, instead of complaining why not look for the good (the bright side) in as much as possible in life? Why not, for every complaint, say something kind instead?
And, if you can’t find anything nice to say, then as my mother used to say – maybe words aren’t necessary at all, and a smile will suffice.
May your days be filled with the blessings of family, magic and wonder, and may the magic and love of the season last all through the New Year.
“Good manners are made up of petty sacrifices.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
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