The holidays can be a time when a non-committal relationship ends. During the holidays some discover that the person they want to have a committed relationship with disappears. No more dates or late night booty calls. And there was never any chance of anything more substantial.
Some try with little success to get their lover to commit because they get swept up in the holiday hype. Stores and advertisers promote the Thanksgiving and Christmas holiday right after Halloween. Everywhere one turns they are bombarded with holiday messages of cheer – spending time with the one you love, swapping gifts and carriage rides.
As corny as it may sound some people like to be kissed under the mistletoe said T. Nicole co-author of the book “Soulful Vagina: The little book that gives women BIG advice on how to masturbate and celebrate, what “doing you” really means.
“If you’re not the person’s significant other, you know it when the holidays roll around, because wherever your “boo” is at, you won’t be there. You discover quickly that they have no use for you during special occasions.”
To add to that misery is the realization that the person you make a priority, only makes you an option. Ouch.
Below are a few “options” to help with a break- up of a non-committal relationship. These tips were gathered on the Soulful Vagina Facebook discussion page.
Get fit and get healthy or stay fit and stay healthy. Looking better and feeling better makes you feel better.
Do nice things for yourself. One person wrote on the discussion page, “Does it get any better than lying in bed watching the Macy’s parade with the one you love.” When she was asked to explain that statement as she ended her “casual” relationship in October, she replied, “in bed with the person I love; I love me.” Go girl.
Be purposeful. People that live purpose driven lives know how to keep moving when a bad or non-existent relationship veers off course. Ask yourself this question: What can you do in your community, in this world, to make it a better place?
Be thankful. Just because the person that you were “casually” dating won’t commit and does not love you, does not mean that you aren’t someone worth loving. Believe that you are someone worth loving.
Finally, yes of course, saved the best for last. Drum roll please.
Enjoy yourself. Masturbate. Buy toys, play with yourself. Masturbation is a very healthy solo act. It does not involve anyone but self and no one can get their feelings hurt. Masturbate often.